To figure out what cheating really looks like, Glamour spoke with 10 women about infidelity and what it looks like to cheat and to be cheated on. “I was in a relationship where my boyfriend would constantly text other girls that he loved them—platonically.
Long story short, I started talking to a guy at the bar and ended up making out with him. “I was newly married and found out my husband had been cheating on me in the months leading up to our wedding.
Frustrated and suspicious, I checked the Instagram of a girl he was following who I didn't know, and discovered that on a night he told me he was staying home to work, he had in fact escorted the other woman he’d been seeing to her law school formal.
It was the lying that made it cheating, not the sex. “I was married when I was young and, during the second year of my marriage, I became seriously depressed and began to correspond with an old boyfriend. I cheated.
In general, "research shows that men are more distressed by sexual cheating while women are more distressed by emotional cheating,” says Clarissa Silva, a behavioral scientist and relationship coach in New York. “Either form can have a negative impact on the relationship.
The pieces started coming together for me at that point: the family emergency we had when he was in away that he dragged his feet to come home and help with, the fact that he had suddenly decided to learn a new language (she doesn't speak English), the inordinate amount of business he had in this town where I'd been with him before, but he never wanted me to accompany him to anymore.
I would have liked to continue the relationship with the person I cheated with (it still pains me to admit I cheated; I was super strict and a rule-follower my whole life) but it was a long-distance romance and it became too difficult and sad. “An ex of mine kissed another girl at a party after flirting with her all night.
In other words, it’s a highly personal thing—what counts as cheating in one relationship might be totally cool in the next.
From flirty texts to frequent "business trips" https://t.co/GUa7n6Zb3x— Glamour (@glamourmag) June 4, 2019
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