My daughter recently got engaged to her fiancé and announced that Katie would be the maid of honor (Katie’s boyfriend is also a good friend of my future son-in-law).
It is not only wrong to have asked your daughter to consider excluding her best friend over this—it is ableist, and cruel, and it speaks to a massive failure of empathy, compassion, and grace on your part.
I mentioned this to my daughter and suggested that maybe Katie could take video or hand out programs (while sitting) so she doesn’t ruin the aesthetic aspect of the wedding.
Daughter's friend being in wedding: My 27-year-old daughter and her best friend, Katie, have been best friends since they were 4.
She has no problem wearing high heels and has already been fitted for the dress, but I still think it will look unsightly if she’s in the wedding procession limping ahead of my daughter.
I encourage you to reread it and to ask yourself that time-honored question, “Do I sound like a villain in a Reese Witherspoon movie? ” You are, presumably, sympathetic to your own situation and are invested in making sure that you come across as reasonable and as caring as possible, and yet you have written a letter indicting yourself at every turn.
In Slate's Dear Prudence column from last week, the mother of a bride wrote in with a question that had Twitter user Nicole Cliffe writing, "I am no longer of this earth.
This girl is “like a daughter” to you, and yet you want to shove her to the side of your other daughter’s wedding just because she walks with a limp.
My daughter is no longer speaking to me (we were never that close), but this is her big wedding and I want it to be perfect.
Weddings have been known to compel even the nicest people to say and do some pretty questionable things, but what one mom wrote about her daughter's maid of honor is shocking, to put it mildly.
Your daughter’s wedding will be perfect with Katie as a full and honored member of the bridal party.
The problem is that Katie walks with a pretty severe limp due to a birth defect (not an underlying medical issue).
This offensive letter will *literally* make your jaw drop. https://t.co/3RcoaMYIop— Glamour (@glamourmag) June 7, 2019